What is self-care?
If you’ve ever flown on a commercial aircraft, you may have heard the flight crew mention that in case of an emergency, to first put on your oxygen mask before helping others. For parents, that "oxygen mask" can be self-care. Self-care is taking active steps to maintain your physical, mental, and emotional health. Neglecting your self-care, in any of those areas, can hamper quality of life, reduce your personal and professional performance, and even leave you depleted and exhausted, and affect your relationships.
Sure, it may seem like you have little time and low energy. On top of that, balancing self-care with parenthood can be challenging and it can seem impossible, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it.
Putting your needs on the back burner is relatable but recognizing how important self-care is for yourself and your family can help everyone thrive. When you're happy and healthy, it can be easier to provide the best version of yourself, balance the demands of parenthood, and all that comes with having a family.
Here, we explore a few tips and reminders about self-care. Find and do what works best for you.
Self-care tips for parents with newborn babies
- Sleep when your baby sleeps
- Hire a housecleaning or maid service to help with light work around the house
- Buy healthy dinners from a local meal prep service
- Depending on the age/stage, consider creating a flexible routine for your baby
- Utilize your support system; ask for and accept help from family or close friends when needed
- Limit visitors if you're tired or need space to recharge
- Seek help and talk with your health care provider if you notice symptoms of postpartum blues, depression, or anxiety and psychosis
Self-care: Things to remember
- There are times when it can feel tough to get enough sleep but keeping it a priority can make a big difference.
- Try to stay active when you can, even if it’s just taking a walk—fresh air, a change of scenery, and movement are all ways to reset.
- Try not to skip meals, eat regularly.
- Be sure to drink enough water—dehydration can amplify your fatigue.
- Spending time in the sun can help boost vitamin D levels, improve sleep, and even brain chemistry.
- Don’t skip routine health care, like annual checkups, dental cleanings, and screenings.
- Connect with friends outside of your role as parent, even if it's only scheduling a phone date with your best friend.
- Don't neglect things you love like hobbies, your interests, and comfort food (if it brings you joy).
- Don’t compare yourself to other parents. They might look perfect on social media, but all families have challenges.
- Write down your thoughts and feelings, journal.
- Talk about your needs with your partner, family, and friends.
- If you get paid time off, take full advantage of it. It's known that most US workers don’t use all their PTO.
- Don’t be too hard on yourself and those around you. Things can get rough at times, but most challenges are temporary. Set realistic expectations and try your best to take setbacks in stride.
- Remember the African proverb, “It takes a village to raise a child.” Parenting isn’t something most people can expect to do totally on their own, so it’s okay to lean on family, friends, neighbors, online support groups, and professional help.
- If you're struggling with your emotions, to manage stress, or with your mental health in general, you don't have to hesitate. There's no harm in seeking professional help.